let's talk about JOY
JOY – YES, IT IS OUT THERE WAITING FOR YOU!!
After loss we assume it’s all doom & gloom from here on out.
A future that includes a joyful moment, a smile and perhaps even happiness seems impossible to imagine.
But, joy is possible!!
"There's one thing I cannot change. It's the past.
I live in the present."
- Dr Edith Eger, Holocaust survivor, psychologist and author
You will always remember & honour your loved one.
Often, there is guilt associated with pleasure. We question if we have a right to joy. Yes! We do. We are alive and we can choose to survive and thrive.
Death is part of life AND so is joy.
JOY – funny – uplifting – heart-warming – delightful – unimaginable – JOY
Joy is mischievous. It slides into your life very quietly and you may not even realize it has enveloped you.
Everyone’s journey is personal & unique.
Little by little. Moment by moment. You are healing.
Your body will also thank you. There are so many proven positive effects of happiness including less body aches, reduced anxiety and a stronger immune system.
Best of all, it can feel SO good to accept joy back into your life.
Try it on. Can you embrace it?
LOSS CAN LEAD TO MORE INTENSE JOY.
Ironically, life’s joyful moments often become even more treasured following great loss. This is because we are now deeply aware how precious and fleeting life can be.
So, when I am invited to join a friend, I drop my plans. I try to stop for a moment to appreciate the sunshine on a dull day. When my kids call, I race thru the house to find my phone & when my grandkids zoom with me, I cherish our time together.
Of course, not every moment is perfect and I recognize that life has forever changed us
on difficult days it’s helpful to remember that joy is just outside the room waiting to be invited inside.
It is not always easy to open the door but it is always worth the effort.
In time, the darker days will be filled with more moments of light & joy.
And, that makes living in the present a gift.