Updated: May 11, 2020
Like you, I need my community; a community of like-minded widows (no men please). I have great visions of supporting, learning and growing wiser and stronger with you all in the future. Who knows what we can create together?
This group is open to all widows but please consider waiting if you are in the first year or two (or perhaps in years three or four - there’s no judgement here) of tremendous grief suffering from widow’s brain and all the pain and fatigue that this entails. You will meet us here. But give yourself time. Trust me. Your friends will try to push you forward. Don’t listen. We are here when you are ready.
Like you, I am still alone. I have plenty of people to do activities with but nobody to do nothing with me. Who do I call when my car breaks down or if I can’t sleep in the middle of the night or if a bug crawls in my house, or if I need a date to a wedding or if I just want to trash talk someone after a party? My list can go on and on.
So, yes, we still need one another but can we get past the ‘puppy dog eye’ talk where there is no hope for a future? Of course we get sad, lonely and depressed; but, let’s encourage one-another to grow and learn to love life, ourselves and one another. Heck, we can even band together on a Saturday night and be ok.
And ladies, despite all the pain, isn’t that one of the positives to this pandemic? We don’t have to pretend. We are all in the same boat. Alone on a Saturday night. For once we don’t need to desperately find plans and get dressed up just to go home alone. No one is out!!! We are the norm.
My Saturday night during the pandemic – a few zoom calls with friends & wine. Then keeping busy (writing a blog) until I fall asleep.
Can you share your success stories for Saturday night in?